Consider Your Choices
If you have a positive pregnancy test, you have three choices:
The thought of becoming a parent may seem impossible to you right now and many questions may be going through your mind. Some of your concerns may be:
- My husband or boyfriend doesn't want the baby, but I do.
- I can't tell my family.
- How will I finish school?
- How will I continue working?
- Where will I live?
- I don't have medical insurance.
- I can't afford a child.
- I'm too young.
We can talk about all these issues with you and let you know the resources available in our community so you can decide if parenting is right for you.
You may ask yourself these questions:
How could I ever "give up" my baby for adoption? Adoption is not "giving up" your child – it’s giving to your child the life that you truly want for him or her.
How can I be sure my baby will end up in a good home? Adoptive couples are closely screened and evaluated. You can remain in control throughout the adoption process and make sure you are comfortable with the adoptive parents. You can choose the parents for your baby.
Will my child grow up thinking I don’t love him or her? Adoption is an act of deep love and your baby’s adoptive parents can communicate this love to your baby.
How can I recover from such a sacrifice? Feeling pain over a decision does not necessarily mean that you are making the wrong choice. Choosing adoption for your baby is a difficult choice, but one you can make in your child’s best interest. Adoption can be a wonderful decision to carry with you throughout your life.
Is adoption expensive? There is no expense to you for creating an adoption plan.
YOU are in control. You define if you want to be involved in your baby’s life and you can even choose the family to parent your child. It’s all about you choosing what is best for your baby.
MAPS can help answer your questions about adoption and guide you to an adoption help that meets your needs.
If you’re thinking about abortion, it is important to remember that abortion is a medical procedure and, depending on the type of abortion you choose, a surgical procedure.
You may ask yourself these questions: What type of abortion will I have? What are the risks? You owe it to yourself to know all the facts and make an informed decision. You are not alone and we understand.
Perhaps you’re thinking:
- The father is insisting on an abortion.
- I'm not ready to be a parent.
- I can't tell anyone I'm pregnant.
If you’re considering abortion, you need to know:
- Are you really pregnant?
- How far along are you?
- What kinds of abortion are available to you?
- What are your rights?*
- Are there any short-term or long-term risks to consider?
* In North Carolina the law requires you to have a certification 72 hours in advance of an abortion. We have provided a summary of the Woman's Right to Know Act as well as the revised certification requirements from House Bill 465.
We can help you understand your choices and your pregnancy, discuss your health and explain your options.